on threesomes

And then there are those threesomes: 2 partnered, bring a third in... they carry out a scenario, the one wanting someone new, the other wanting that one to be happy and agreeing to the sex... what happens if the one actually falls for the third going into the experience, even though his intention really is to make his own very boyfriend happy? Isn't that the ultimate betrayal? Having sex with another is not so much a betrayal as an actual falling for, or being in love with another... this is why sex is always under suspect: with sex we may all really know deep down that there is always potential for love, so that when we are truly in love we know that if that object of our love sleeps with someone else that he may actually fall in love with that person instead of us.

On the converse, we may have sex with other people to escape the love we have for one person, with the suspicion that the love we are feeling for that one person really isn't true love and what better way for proof of that, then to find someone else that I may fall much more deeply and more easily in love with.

The worse fate: that sex really is just sex and we really aren't having any feelings for anybody whatsoever. That it is all a farce. Isn't that what so many of us tell ourselves at every waking minute of our nights? Isn't that why we fetishize and all other artificial play in order to separate ourselves that much further from our natural selves? Really, to prove that we are actually what is the setting of what is both our desire to be that strong hypermasculine alphamale and our worst nightmare- the nightmare that he, the object of our affection, as well as our very self are just men, only care about sex, have no feelings, and therefore meaning, and we ultimately have no meaning either.