I can't pretend to know what someone is thinking. I look at someone and know that the potential of thoughts are immense. The idea of mind reading is totally off. The multitude of thoughts that go through a single mind are rarely coherent enough to capture, the mind isn't like a book, nor is it like it movie. It is perhaps more like a painting where you can't see the whole painting, and a painting that shifts endlessly.
To make matters worse, a person can be thinking one thing and completely act on some complete other impetus... isn't it already too much to think about the unconscious?
For that reason it is difficult to act on what one does solely. Forget about the unconscious (almost easily done), and already isn't it to much to about what one actually does? Afterall, people's behavior is already perplexing, many times devoid of any practical reason whatsoever...
So when someone doesn't tell you something, isn't it utterly perplexing in it's own right? There's no act to think about, it's what he's not doing, and being that even when someone is doing something he's not doing an infinite amount of other things... you can't read his mind, so you can only make guesses into what could be a nebulous of potential thoughts...
It's not enough just to do you're own thing though. It's not enough to just ignore him and see if he comes around to explain. I've learned better, people just don't come around. Ok that's not true, i've experienced instances where guys have come around years later... nonetheless the situation is as they say, the other takes the form of him, it's the impenetrable Other, it's the big fat question mark on the face of anyone you've ever known, that is, when you're honest to finally admit that you've made stories up about people, that you don't really know them (how often do you hear of someone you know do a 180 in personality and up and do something you never thought they'd do?). And when it's him- not some random person walking down the block, or the cashier person from whatever store, or a coworker you could give two shits about- when it's a potential him, not just some potential boyfriend, but just the potential of a really cool friend, or some cathartic incarnation of a sexual fantasy: to ignore him, to do your thing just isn't possible. At that point, some inner need in yourself, your own unconscious is what you must contend with...
The solution to this becomes a single solution for far too many things: deliberate. If you can't read his mind, and can't really know why about anything about him, why bother? On the other hand if you can't stop thinking about him, why try to stop? Or as others continue... it becomes about yourself, you must think about yourself and why you want to know, etc... but...
Ultimately there is never really anything to be done. Any imperative on your part means that desire is in place. Desire is never a justification for anything, although it is a means... for an unspecified potential happening/becoming. Being unspecified and potential more than eliminates desire from the picture, it eliminates the picture itself. With all the talk of having dreams and picturing in your mind what you want, is it possible for any of us to live and do things without a picture in mind? It is actually, we just don't think so. Afterall, without anything to be done, what kind of life is there to live?
So really let me just say what's on my mind: whatever he's really thinking, it's probably meaningless and pointless, and 9 times out of 10 not really anything of any real and/or substantial value.
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